We all have goals and dreams. For some it is enough to dream. Others have trained themselves with much perseverance to not only find joy in the creation of these dreams but in the accomplishment thereof. I have always had the unwavering belief that all my dreams come true – and so they have. Yet, I am holding myself back on the seemingly challenging goals. Why is that? I am determined to find out and this blog is the first step.
Is it my childhood? I was raised in the ‘perfect’ family, yet it was far from perfect. This is not a bad thing. We all need the imperfection to see the perfection. Would it help to blame circumstances or is it just another delay, another excuse, because you are scared to fail. The reality is that you cannot fail at life. There is no one recipe for success. We are human and our capacity to evolve in any direction is limitless. As a child I was under a lot of pressure to succeed at everything. I got the straight A’s, the degrees, the leadership roles, made the first team in sports, I set the example – I did what was expected of me. For years I was fighting the success. I was fighting the pressure. How much more fun would it have been if I did it out of my own accord?
I wanted to and still want to live life at my own pace. Do not tell me … I want to get there on my own, be it in thought or flesh. I now realise that I am still running from the pressure and taking away from the joy of my success. I have trained myself to be successful, yet associating it with something which is outside myself and imposed on me, reason being why I have always fought for the fun in life, unknowingly robbing myself from fully embracing experiences. I am scared that success will take away the fun, the power that I have nurtured since childhood. I have created this program in my mind. The good news is that I am also the one that can undo it.
So how do I do this?
1.) I bring awareness to the subject. Done.
2.) I create a new image of success, one that is fun.
Having a successful relationship can be fun, it does not have to be boring. There need not be constant challenges, beliefs to be bridged and problems to be solved. I do not need to stay in a toxic environment only to say that I have remained loyal and thus have made a success of it.
Having a successful business does not mean that I have to give up all the fun of being a child. Each day, be it you are young or old, you have responsibilities. Responsibilities towards oneself and in daily life, are pretty normal. I no longer need to see it as part of being a boring ‘grown-up’. No one is putting pressure on me anymore. I have left my parents’ home a very long time ago. I decide my own pace and giving my power away to others, who quite frankly couldn’t care less, is limiting.
The desire to be more, to evolve, is always there and finding excuses to not heed to it, takes up a lot of energy. Energy that can be used to enjoy life. That is what makes you feel out of sync and out of balance. It is a good idea to write down this new image of success and visiting it often in your mind or to start with, reading it as often as you can. Soon it will not only be words on paper, but a feeling. Visualisation is a powerful tool in creation, be sure to use it.
3. Now that I have admitted that I am holding myself back, taken responsibility for it and created a new image of success, I have to put it into action.
Be happy that you have dreams and that you are able to grow and learn through the act of living life. Identify the actions which are part of the old paradigm and slowly start eliminating them from your life. Doing something for a long time, does not mean it is the best thing to do. It is a habit. Habits are easy to break – start believing that and it will be so. Do you really need to watch that much TV or stream movies each night? Could you be spending this time getting closer to your goals? Think about where you want to be, conjure up that image of success again and then find the motivation to change your habits.
4.) Generate excitement.
Think about the new experiences you will have, the things you will learn, the people you will interact with. Visualise the joy of the process. Do not be discouraged by those who do not support your change. They will fall by the wayside, making space for other people who share your vision and who find it as exciting to be successful.
5.) Live in gratitude.
Gratitude is a generator of abundance. Be grateful for all the people who have crossed your path, those who have showed you what you don’t want so that you can bridge the gap to what you ultimately desire, and for those who showed you what you do want. Get up each day and expect good to happen. Expect this process of learning and changing to be easy. Give thanks to the Universe for everything, the perceived ‘bad’ and the good.
Get out there and live the life you deserve to live. No excuses, no blame, no doubt. Let the Clarity within be your guidance.